Self regulation and Self control seem to be stark jargons that are not only unpleasant to hear but also difficult to implement. With these two awry terms I always expect a list of alien suggestions and it requires a great deal of nerve to map those nitpicky advices to my real life. To stoke the matter was the cliché ‘Resolutions are made to be broken’. Yet when you enter professional world you gradually become aware of your deficiencies and inadequacy that somehow bung up your performance. As we all fancy true leaders and successful entrepreneurs but all their thriving accomplishments are reminiscent of planning, control and expansion of inner self. I tried a few things like schedules and strong intentions (in fact oaths) to act more responsibly but the result only suggested that ‘I’ am more difficult to manage than administering a subgroup in office.
Your personal resolutions can be myriad of aims ranging from a simple, desire to stay organized, to complex goals like starting your own business venture. But I’ve realized that the underlying technique remains the same. Obviously your sincerity and firm intention are still the most crucial cogs of the plan but the execution and tracking are more simplified here.
Firstly you have to acknowledge both the ‘Reliable You’ and the ‘lethargic You’. We all know both kind of conflicting ‘YOUs’ remain at one place (entire Me) and instead of suppressing one in order to bolster other will only worsen the issue. So you have to respect the preferences of each facet. Now the next step is to set the goal: Single, concrete and measurable and by that I don’t mean an overwhelming aim rather it can be a simple one; to have a balanced diet.
The next move would be (unlike any other self improvement guide) to observe your routine avidly. You must be able to point out the hitches and anomalies. Just quietly observe yourself for a couple of days without interrupting anything. Once you’ve diagnosed the problem in greater detail, You would then be in a better position to sift pitfalls that can be corrected. (Jot them down). Then calculate the average amount of work you need every day to reach your goal. Just like the project management course of action, set tasks and give them titles (more like a checklist) Set a starting and ending date. Make a Spreadsheet and check each task that has been performed. Alternatively you can draw a flowchart on paper but the key is to glance at your plan at least twice a day. So let the file rest on either your desktop or in your music folder (fav one) where you can often stumble upon it.
So here comes the fun part (Yeah its fun!) for every milestone achieved in this project you have to coddle your lethargic ‘You’, the more advanced the milestone, the more bigger the treat. It can be like having your favorite meal or sleep for an extra hour or maintain a status quo on inertia; whatever gives you pleasure. But beware of stumbling on the limbo between both YOUs; the reward for each milestone must be directly correlated to the vitality of it. Conversely when you fail to achieve your milestone, set a punishment for the lethargic You and scold or excoriate it as much as it deserves. Do not be kind in fact be a little harsher with it. Criticize yourself for every slack that occurs during the project and on successful completion pat yourself on the back and admire your self control.
I have come to know that transformation is about Me; when I’ll become strong enough to control myself only then can I manage other human beings effectively.
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